Being in a military family can be super fun, but also super… eh.
There’s the ups and the downs, just like anything in life. I’m sure we each had a different experience, but my family just so happened to be Navy. (every branch is different in how often they move, how long they are gone for, etc)
Growing up I moved every three years, give or take for some states but it was frequent. Not ever did I hate it. It was a thrill for me to up and move to a new place. I was thankful for the people I met in my current state and excited to see what the next place brought me. Change is exhilarating especially when it comes to travel. I took in the new styles, accents, surroundings, all of it.
- Seeing the world
- Gaining perspective
- Learning to step out of my comfort zone and meet people through always being the new kid
- Being away from a family member while they are away
- Never having a constant friendship that lasted past a move
Now being 22 years old I am starting to realize that all the moving around has affected how I treat friendships. At first I wondered what was going wrong. Did I do something? What the heck is wrong with me to not have a freaking best friend… Or even a friend for that matter?! Isn’t everyone supposed to have a bff? Am I not aware of the true definition for bf? I absolutely love meeting and connecting with people, but I’m terrified of getting my hopes up at this point.
I’m nervous that how I see our friendship, isn’t how they see it.
I’ve lost so many best friends. I can’t recall the longest true friendship I’ve had. Ones that I’ve thought I had, turned out not to be one at all. I would do for them things they wouldn’t ever think of doing for me. The value wasn’t there. To this day I do not have any best friends, just a whole lot of acquaintances.
To The Kid Raised In A Military Family
Stay self aware.
After high school when you are on your own and have the opportunity to develop into your own person and do your own things, pay attention to how you act and react. Relationships are a huge part of life therefor it’s important we know what to do with them. Make sure you’re handling them with care and noticing how your childhood is affecting how you treat them.
Be open and honest with how you feel. Don’t hold on so tight when a relationship passes over. Just appreciate what was and kindly move forward. Never let go of someone out of fear. Let life flow at it’s natural rhythm.
Appreciate the lifestyle you were raised with.
I know it can be intense while you’re in the situation of moving all the time, but appreciate it! Graduating high school in Japan was a pretty big deal. I saw how awful some of my classmates treated this once and a life time opportunity that it opened my eyes up to making sure I didn’t do the same. Never take for granted the places you get to live in.
Take in the now. Make the most of every place you’re in. Give life you’re all. After, life is meant to be lived.
Oh, and this is a huge advantage when applying for jobs!
Thank your parents.
All of this would not be possible if it weren’t for your mom or dad serving in the military. Show gratitude and respect towards them and others who serve.
“When you grow up a military brat you stay restless for the rest of your life. Part of you years to constantly move. We are the true gypsy souls.”-Pinterest
To read the rest of the “To The Person…” series, click below.
To The Person Who Deals With Social Anxiety
To The Mom Who’s Not Quite Sure What To Do With Her Body
To The Go Getter Who Wants To Do It All
To The Christian Who’s Struggling
You can also ready Growing Up A Military Brat