To The Curly Haired Girl

Learning how to love your natural hair

Growing up I had to have my hair straight at all times. I begged my mom for a relaxer (permanent straighten) and she always said no. She barely even let me dye my hair for fear of damaging it. At the time, I thought she was the worst.

I wanted highlights and and super, duper straight, sleek hair. So every week or two I (well, my mom) would spend 2-3 hours washing, conditioning, blowdrying, and flat ironing my hair. If it rained, I about cried and I never really went swimming. I hated my curly hair. 

  • No matter how much gel I put in it, it would still shrink up.
  • Don’t get me started on how long it took to dry it.

Fast forward to my second semester of my Sophomore year in high school. At this point my mom pointed out that it was time I do my own hair. I was dedicated so again, every two to three weeks I did my own hair.

One day I caught my mom watching YouTube videos. I brushed it off, but then it kept happening. She was constantly engulfed into her iPad watching girls on YouTube talk about their hair. Their natural, curly hair.

Another day, months later, my mom came home with all her hair cut off. These videos had inspired her to “make the big chop.” Now if you’re reading this, I’m assuming you have curly hair and I’m also assuming you know what the big chop is. She cut her to get rid of all the relaxers and harsh chemicals. There was a method to my moms madness. All those times when I asked for a relaxer, she said no because she knew how harmful they were. When she cut her hair, she had a plan.

She started the curly girl method.

From being horrified to falling in love. I saw the whole transition. I was amazed how pretty her curls were and how fast her hair was growing. Eventually (definitely not over not, but eventually), she talked me into trying this method that consisted of using certain products, conditioning my hair a certain way, and drying my hair with this big weird looking thing (a diffuser).

And again, I was surprised.

After following the instructions I insisted on always wearing my hair curly. Just like that, I changed my mind. With the right knowledge on how to care for my hair, I went from hating my hair to being obsessed with it.

I CAN WEAR MY HAIR IN TWO DIFFERENT WAYS. Straight or curly. I can also style it in a thousand different ways. Dang, I love my hair.

To The Curly Haired Girl, 

I encourage you to embrace it. Try the curly girl method and see how it works for you. I have a post on what the curly girl method is and how to do it here. My mom and I will also be posting videos sharing more of our story and the products we love. But remember, don’t knock it till you try it. Stop hiding all that natural beauty and make the most of what you got! Raid Pinterest, YouTube, and Instagram, for different hairstyles and products. Find the right hairstylist who is going to nourish and love your hair.

And to the moms of curly haired girls, 

If you don’t know how to properly care for your baby’s hair, find someone who does. Hair can make or break a persons confidence. One should not rely on it to love themselves, but if you have hair why not make the most of it?

Teach yourself and teach them. 

Like I said above, research via Google ad YouTube. You can also find curly friendly salons. There are even DevaCurl artist who only work with curly hair and teaching the curly girl method.

“I am a queen crowned in my curls.”

Favorite Products

  • DevaCurl
  • Shae Moisture
  • Not Your Mothers
  • Paul Mitchell



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To The Person Who Quit College

To The Curly Haired Girl

To The Unwed Mother

To The Mom Who’s Not Quite Sure What To Do With Her Body

To The Go Getter Who Wants To Do It All

To The Christian Who’s Struggling

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